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Comment on Stuck In My Head Song Of The Day by Martha

Martha — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 04:24:32 +0000

I just found your blog. I admire your patience through the trials you have experienced. We adopted my daughter when she was 18 mos old. We got her when she was 4 mos and we were her third foster home (she had been in care since birth) I saw some early signs of RAD with her (No eye contact, mommy shopping etc,) but I think we are past them. I hope and pray we are. She is almost 3 (in Jan) and she is extremely defiant at times, I hope its just normal 2/;3 yr old stuff. She is our only. I don’t know how you do it…I am praying for you and your family.

Comment on Brass Knuckles and Drama Queens by (Almost) Not Surprised | Waiting To Exhale

(Almost) Not Surprised | Waiting To Exhale — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 02:05:55 +0000

[...] in late October I blogged about thinking K showed symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. Well, we just got her treatment plans from last month and this month in the mail today. Guess [...]

Comment on S’up? by Cheryl

Cheryl — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 04:42:16 +0000

I so understand this. I admire your ability to keep the boundries clear. It will help so much in the long run. I’m learning and getting better, but not there yet. (((HUG)))

Comment on Another move tomorrow by Cheryl

Cheryl — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 07:16:52 +0000

I hope this works out for her. It is so hard. With my youngest, I use to feel she had to stick it out, learn to deal with life. There are bullies/jerks in every school, the fantasy school she has in her head doesn’t exist. Yet, she also goes to the extremes to avoid school. It has to be so difficult and painful for her. I wish I knew what the answer was. I do know that I am very sick of psychiatric hopsitals!

Take care of yourself.

Comment on Brass Knuckles and Drama Queens by catherine

catherine — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 00:16:13 +0000

I wanted to stop by and say hello. I am glad that your daughter is going to a good place, even if it is far away. I hope this works for her.

Comment on Update by Cheryl

Cheryl — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 16:20:44 +0000

I am so glad she is safe. How exhausting and stressful this all is for you. I hope your are trying to find ways to take care of yourself (I know I am preaching to the choir). I am the one in the family who can usually calm one of the girls down, but it is draining. I don’t understand the cutting…I do on an intellectual level, but when I look at the cuts on my daughter, I just don’t get it. I told the girls I was going to put a mural on our wall of their lives in pictures from birth to now. They were happy, secure girls, we were really good parents, our children always came first. I want them to see, to remember how loved they were/are and how secure they should feel. Of course I am not really going to do it, but I just don’t understand. I am glad you set the clear limits thou, cut or home. Clear, very clear.

Comment on what is she thinking??? by Cheryl

Cheryl — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 16:13:18 +0000

How terrifying that must be. Sending hugs and support.

Comment on How it’s going by Cheryl

Cheryl — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:23:38 +0000

((((HUGS)))) I am trying so hard to wrap my head around the cutting too. I wonder if my daughter got out of the hospital too soon. She wears a rubber band around her wrist, to snap it when she feels like cutting. She snaps it a lot. I don’t know if it is working, she won’t let me look at her thighs and her therapist told me not to search. She is depressed, refusing to go to school, wants a new school, wants me to Home School her (I could never do that) and has an issue with everything. Her Pediatrician thinks this all started with her concussion 3 years ago, and he is probably right, but there is nothing they can do about it now. Wait and see if the brain heals and medicate the depression/anxiety. Meds. are not working. Counselor is trying.
I hear you. I wish I had words of comfort, except to say you are not alone and hang in there. This has got to get better.

Comment on SEEMS i’ve been holding my BREATH FOR QUITE AWHILE NOW by Cheryl

Cheryl — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 03:49:09 +0000

You know, I need to write about my girls…..so badly. Yet at my old blog, Life of Triggers, I had so many people reading it, wanting lighter stuff, thus my new blog. I am thinking about starting a private blog, so I can vent, reflect and just process what I am dealing with now with 2 teens who have serious mental health issues, a lack of community services and a family that is being torn apart. My 13 year old who JUST got out of the hospital (her 3rd stay since April) is refusing to go back to her public school. I sent her to a private one last year, that didn’t work. Now she is on Homebound again, until we can find the right school. If that even exists. My 16 year old who is bi-polar 1 is so unstable right now (she got out of the hospital in August) and is just brutal to us, especially her 13 year old sister. My 14 year old, just stays out of it, she is like an angel, but I know this is impacting her, as all the attention is focused on the other 2.
Is there a way to start a blog, just for this type of stuff? I am so unsavy when it comes to tech. stuff.

Thanks for listening. I know you have your own hands full, so I hope you don’t mind. My e-mail address is cheryle@twcny.rr.com

Comment on SEEMS i’ve been holding my BREATH FOR QUITE AWHILE NOW by Cheryl

Cheryl — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 03:44:57 +0000

Hope you get this and the link works. I had to delete A Life of Triggers. My new blog “home” just opened up tonight.
Please visit, I do think we have so much in common.
Thanks